We’ve messed up

In the Bible, there are no exception clauses regarding Abused Christian Spouses where justice, freedom, dignity, and righteousness is addressed for all people.


‘It is for freedom that Christ has set us free’ (Galatians 5: 1a)

Abused Christian Spouses are not excluded from this freedom.


‘Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery’ (Galatians 5: 1b)

There are no exception clauses compelling Abused Christian Spouses to allow themselves to be enslaved by their Abusive Claiming-to-be-Christian Spouses.


‘He who justifies the wicked and he who condemns the righteous are both repulsive to the LORD’ (Proverbs 17: 15)

There are no exception clauses allowing condemnation of Righteous Christian Spouses for maintaining firm boundaries against the abusive behaviours of their Wicked Claiming-to-be-Christian Spouses.

There are no exception clauses allowing justification of Wicked Claiming-to-be-Christian Spouses who abuse their Righteous Christian Spouses.


‘You must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister [Christian] but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people’ (1 Corinthians 5: 11)

There is no exception that insists Abused Christian Spouses must eat with a Sexually Immoral-Greedy-Idolatous-Slanderous-Addicted-Or-Con Man/ Woman (SI-G-I-S-A-Or-CM/ W) who call themselves a brother or sister [Christian] if the person is their Spouse, let alone;

have sex! (a vastly more intimate ‘association’) with their SI-G-I-S-A-Or-CM/ W Spouse,

be financially vulnerable to such a SI-G-I-S-A-Or-CM/ W Spouse,

ignore a complete lack of trustworthiness in such a SI-G-I-S-A-Or-CM/ W Spouse, or

ignore a complete loss of feeling safe under the same roof, physically or emotionally, for one’s self or one’s children, with such a SI-G-I-S-A-Or-CM/ W Spouse.


‘A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty; rescue them, and you will have to do it again’ (Proverbs 19: 19)

There is no exception allowing a Hot-Tempered Claiming-to-be-Christian Spouse to avoid penalty and be denied the opportunity to be accountable to their church, with a view to reformation and restoration.


Jesus’ words about divorce guarded against the mistreatment of Treacherously Divorced Wives.

Abused Christian Spouses today can unfortunately say as David did;

‘You keep track of all my sorrows

You have collected all my tears in your bottle

You have recorded each one in your book’ (Psalm 56:8)

This is not only regarding the injustice they receive from their Abusive Claiming-to-be-Christian Spouses, but the injustice they receive from their Lacking-Discernment Churches.  

As traditions replace scriptural truth, Abused Christian Spouses are treated as of lesser value than their abusers; as a lower class of person, discriminated against and afforded less protection. The abused are assumed not to be included in various scriptures, as if their marriage gives impunity to their Abusive Claiming-to-be-Christian Spouses. Abusive Claiming-to-be-Christian Spouses act accordingly, believing they have impunity for their unrighteous behaviour.

If traditional beliefs about marriage and divorce compel us to treat Abused Christian Spouses as lower class people, we’ve messed up! Jesus would never do that.

‘It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.’

Galatians 5: 1

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5 Responses to We’ve messed up

  1. Bravo! This is excellent! A pithy summing up, exposing the truth and calling the visible church to re-calibrate.

    I will point readers of the ACFJ blog to this post.

    • admin says:

      Thank you, Barbara. I appreciate your feedback, and increasing exposure to those readers for whom it may help with clearing the fog.

  2. JennyLynn Hubbard says:

    Exactly. I have often wondered why we take particular verses of scripture regarding the marriage covenant relationship out of context of the entirety of scripture. Typically, the counsel given an abused spouse by clergy and counselors is actually prescribing sin.

    • admin says:

      Thank you for your comment. I love the way you put it, ‘prescribing sin’. I know that would be sufficient to cause me to study, reflect and re-evaluate if I found myself facing such a possibility! It’s that serious.

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